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On Disputes
 

On Disputes

The young men, trained by Master, at first, usually had a similar opinion about everything that they heard from Him and read.

But gradually — as their outlook expanded in the process of acquiring new knowledge and developing independence in thinking, — they sometimes began to disagree in their opinions and assessments of events or written material.

And it began to happen that their disagreements in opinions began to grow into heated debates, which sometimes ended in insults. Usually friends soon reconciled again, but such situations were repeated again and again… Once they turned to Master with a request to judge in future: which of them is right in the next heated debate.

Master answered them in an unexpected way:

“Do you know that the excessive insisting on your opinion in a conversation is a manifestation of the vice of violence?

“Violence over the thoughts of another person, forcing others to think the way I think, is one of the very negative manifestations of egocentrism!

“Have you thought about this?”

The young men were silent in embarrassment. They did not evaluate their verbal arguments from this perspective.

Master continued:

“To express a point of view that is different from the interlocutor’s opinion, it is possible only in a state of love and respect for that person. And you should also understand that the interlocutor has the right to disagree with your opinion.

“Because we all here want to be like-minded in the main principles that unite us, it is very important to learn not to invest the power of negative emotions in such disputes concerning an insignificant point.

“We should insist on our correctness only in exceptional cases! But you have acquired the habit of arguing on insignificant problems and topics.

“Only in those cases when mistakes of your friend can seriously harm him or her, or other people — it is necessary to show firmness in the statement of your position. This confidence in the correctness of such words and actions will be confirmed by the approval of God, which you will learn to feel.

“If you learn the habit of arguing over trifles, then, when it comes to really important matters, your opinion will not be heard and taken into account. The habit of always objecting to the interlocutor is very bad!

“A reluctance to listen to another point of view, as well as an attitude to an opponent, who thinks differently than you, as to an enemy or a fool, — this shows the extreme degree of your egocentrism!

“Develop a habit of self-observation, self-control!

“Sometimes the desire to object to the interlocutor is not manifested in words, but only in the accumulating mental and emotional objection. This accumulation of the negative inevitably leads in the future to conflict situations. Take note of your own such shortcomings!”

“But what should I do if I really do not agree with him?” — one of the young men asked.

“God gave people free will! This includes the freedom to think and evaluate what is happening — in accordance with the level of development, on which the soul is. This freedom of will of everyone should be respected!

“Only if the thinking of the interlocutor seems to you harmful and dangerous for others — it makes sense to try to stop or correct a friend. But all this should be done in emotions of peace, love, and respect!

“If you cannot respect and love those people, with whom there are protracted conflicts, — it makes sense to stop this communication. And even in this case there should be no contempt, disgust, and hatred. It’s just that people separate and get each in his or her lives new lessons from God — according to how they will live on.

“Violence in the field of thinking is very interesting and it should be deeply understood and studied.

“It is important to develop in oneself, including, the ability to admit one’s own error, the ability to ‘surrender’, to permit the ‘clever self’ to be defeated, to recognize oneself as wrong. We must also learn to look at the problem or situation — through the eyes of the interlocutor, learn to understand how he or she thinks. It is also important to be able to calmly and reasonably express your opinion. This is what you need to learn during such discussions. All this develops the ability to think independently and, at the same time, to understand others not superficially.

“It is useful to be able to do this — not only for zealots who have risen on the spiritual path. This is also important for a harmonious life together in families or in other small or large communities of people.

“And even in the relationships between states, it would be very useful and could be named as a wise policy. It is a pity, however, that politicians and diplomats usually use the ability to understand the train of thought and recognize the far-reaching plans of actions of interlocutors — only to deceive opponents and to obtain conformation in ‘victorious superiority’ over… the allies.

“Very often bloody wars between peoples are due to the ambitions and disputes of politicians who do not want to see the situation wider than the interests of one or several persons, do not take into account the possible disastrous consequences for the remaining very many people. Such politicians also do not think about the great gravity of the karmic consequences that they themselves bring into fates in their present and future incarnations.

“We must understand that if some people are of large volumes of consciousnesses and have great willpower, then their thinking and convictions influence very much small souls. Such leaders easily begin to control the thinking of the crowds, subordinating, paralyzing with their brute strength other people’s weak ability to think and distinguish critically.

“It’s sad to see when such leaders use their power to subordinate to themselves the thinking of other people — for their own material gain or fame…

“The same can be observed in relation to some religious leaders.

“That is why on the spiritual Path it is so important to learn to monitor and suppress the desire to subordinate the thinking of other persons even in insignificant manifestations.”

“Why, Master, did not You immediately forbid us to argue with each other?”

“One should develop in oneself the ability to think, to understand others, to have one’s own point of view — but not blindly obey the opinion of others, even those who have influence and authority. I’m not happy if my students just take everything that I’m saying or everything that they read in my books on blind faith — and do something in one or another way not because they agree, but because of fear of being among those of whom I am not satisfied.

“Now, I hope, you saw the situation multifaceted — and not simply due to obedience will act faithfully, but you will be able to develop in yourselves the qualities of love, care, and wisdom while mastering the abilities to think, speak, and listen independently.”


[The translation will be continued.]

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